Nothing to it really, once everything was said and done.

With chaotic detritus from the recent move still littering areas of the new house (and my own psyche), we celebrated my fortieth birthday a bit early on Saturday night by escaping to my favorite restaurant, Tres Lobos.

No one took a picture, but I’m sure I was grinning like an idiot. I love Tres Lobos for their excellent Camarones ala Diabla (a dish so good I am unable to bring myself to order anything else on the menu) as well as the guy who roams between the tables on Fridays and Saturdays, singing the hell (and his heart) out of Mexican karaoke standards. Unfortunately, I forgot my video camera and was unable to record it when the singer (bribed by my father-in-law) came over to sing for my birthday! Alas.

You’ll just have to settle for this shot captured on my iPhone and take my word for it how awesome it all was.

The month of June showed up, wandered through and pointedly reminded me that (a) It wasn’t quite my birthday yet, and (b) I still had a lot of unpacking to do. Ninety-five percent of everything in the new house is squared away, of course. There are those boxes in the attic to organize, sure. And that old roll top desk isn’t going to take itself to the salvation army, no matter how much I beg it to.

But it’s really that little room in the basement where most of the trouble is — and by trouble, I mean books . . . boxes and boxes of them. They’re teetering everywhere, spilling out their contents like roadkill left in the tracks of the moving van. And unless I get them sorted out and put away, that little room in the basement won’t ever become an office where I can actually get some writing done.

I have a wishlist of things I need to get in order to make it a bit more homey, a bit more of a working space (a rug, some better lighting, a comfy chair) . . . but it’s really the boxes and boxes of books that are keeping it from being more than just extra storage in the basement.

I’ll get it there, eventually.

Saturday afternoon (before the evening’s festivities) I went to go see my daughter perform in her end of the year ballet program and ended up enjoying it much more than I expected to. Apart from the typical parade of positions and exercises, the company also performed a number of pieces and — to my surprise — I actually enjoyed them. A few of the older students were really quite good. I’m judging this based on (a) My lack of interest in (or enthusiasm for) ballet in general, and (b) How much I enjoyed watching them perform.

Best of all was a boy, maybe twelve years old, who completely, utterly, and obviously loved what he was doing so much, it just lit up his face and (by extension) the whole stage every time he was on. I tracked him down in the lobby afterwards and said “Listen kid, you don’t know me at all but I just wanted to tell you how much I enjoyed your dancing. You were obviously having a lot of fun and that made it a lot of fun for the rest of us.” A little old lady overheard us and came up to tell him, in essence, the exact same thing.

And he just beamed like the sun, bright as anything.

I never quite understood the parents who absolutely forced their kids to do ballet or sports or theatre or music or whatever. They might say it’s to teach them discipline or expose them to the arts or show them ideas of teamwork and fair play, but more often than no, it seems like most of the kids don’t really want to be there. They’re enduring it, of course, because their parents are forcing them to do it.

That looks like a perfect recipe for aversion therapy to me.

I’m not saying that these things aren’t important. I’m just saying that your precious little offspring aren’t necessarily cut out to be ballerinas or a concert pianists or a champion quarterbacks — so lighten up, Santini . . . and let the kids have some fun every once in a while.

As a parent, I think it’s my role to light as many lamps as possible and then step back to see which ones draw my kids in, which ones kindle that same light within their eyes that I saw on that boy’s face this past weekend.

As a parent, that’s what makes me proud of my kids, seeing that light pouring out of them — whether or not they win the state championship or perform a flawless arabesque.

All of which is a roundabout way of blaming my mom and dad for all those boxes of books. They had things they wanted me to try out (piano lessons, freshman basketball) . . . but mostly, my parents influence is that they left books lying around everywhere. It seemed like everywhere you turned someone, everyone in the house was always reading something. But, of course, my parents never sat me down, forced a book into my hands, and said “Read, goddamnit.”

Books were stacked on the nightstand next to the beds, the shelves in the family room, carried in briefcases to work. I snuck them into church. We packed them up to go on vacation with us. They were everywhere.

That’s pretty much what my house looks like now. I’ve got forty years of books . . . and this birthday, my family happily added a few more to the stacks: Crowley and Steiner from my wife, vintage comics from my son, and an Amazon gift certificate from my parents that will almost certainly get spent on even more books and comics. All I have to do is find a place to put them all.

Also, I need to read them.

One of the things that hit me during this past move was not just how many books there are, but how many I’ve either not read in years or (gasp) never read at all. I’m going to need to remedy that, I think. As much as I love reading, I see no reason to hold books and comics hostage — especially if they’re not ones I plan on ever reading again (if at all).

Also, it’ll free up some space on the shelves. Which would be helpful as I am almost certainly going to need it.

At work on Monday, they sang Happy Birthday and there was a big chocolate cake with Batman on it. Yay.

The company I work for doesn’t allow people to work on their birthdays, so on Tuesday (my actual birthday, for those of you keeping track) I spent the day with my wife and had a wonderful time going out to breakfast and pushing the cart while she loaded it up with plants and flowers from the local nursery. Back home, I caught up on the overwhelming birthday wishes coming in from everyone online, read a bit from the Aleister Crowley biography that Keeley bought me, and then took a very very very long nap.

I woke up to more well wishes from the Internet and the smell of a fresh rhubarb pie baking downstairs. While my most excellent wife got a special birthday dinner started, I went off to collect the kids from various locations. My daughter brought a key lime pie to add to the mix, my son found some vintage comics for me, and my wonderful in-laws arrived. Together, we all demolished the beef stroganoff my wife had prepared.

And that, more or less, was that.

Not a bad way to spend your fortieth birthday, when you stop to think about it.

So here goes…

1. My full name is Thomas Murphy Camp but I’ve been going by T.M. for the past fourteen years or so. I’d been trying to get people to do it for years but I had to move halfway across the country in order to start with a clean slate, nomenclaturally-speaking. My parents and brothers, of course, refuse. They used to call me Tom or Tommy when I was young — there was a minor meme of calling me Tuck when I was a kid (as in “Little Tommy Tucker”). In junior high I decided to change my name to “Thom” (the gods only know why now) and I regret it every time someone from high school tries to friend me on Facebook. Sistercat says that all of my name changing has prevented my Fate from finding me. I’m not entirely certain that’s a bad thing.

2. I’m a double Gemini and I have to say I didn’t used to believe all of that Astrology stuff until I read a description of my sign. It was hard not to feel like someone had been peeking over my shoulder my whole life. This is perhaps why I’m so interested in liminality, boundaries, and identity. It also adds resonance to my name, which comes from the Greek — Didymous, meaning “twin.”

3. I’m a Mac guy.

4. As a kid, I played with Mego dolls, Micronauts, Shogun Warriors, and Star Wars figures. Those were good times. One day when my ship comes in, I’m buying all those old toys and will spend my afternoons playing with them once again.

5. The first book I ever read all by myself was called A House for Willie and I was four years old.

6. The last book I read was the fourth volume of Neil Gaiman’s The Absolute Sandman and it broke my heart just as much as it did when I read the comics for the first time, years ago.

7. The book I’m reading right now is John Crowley’s Little, Big because Akela recommended it. The only problem is, I’ve been reading it for months. I lose a couple of days and then when I come back I find I have to start over again.

8. The only shoes I wear are Doc Martens.

9. I have a number of baby teeth still, with no permanent teeth beneath them. They weren’t meant to last this long and, one by one, they’re going to crumble. Soon enough, I will realize my dream of becoming a gap-toothed hobo named Gabby.

10. I do not believe in vampires. But I do believe in werewolves.

11. I don’t enjoy debating politics, theology, or operating systems with anyone. Ever.

12. I love kids. When given the choice, I will pick their company over grown-ups any day of the week.

13. I have a little bit of a thing for Julianne Moore.

14. There’s over 16,000 songs in my iTunes library. The oddest thing I listen to is probably The Conet Project.

15. I absolutely hate the recent reinvention of Batman as a guy in a black, molded rubber suit. For me, Batman will always (and only) be the one created by Paul Dini and Bruce Timm, voiced by Kevin Conroy.

16. I have no interest at all in sports of any kind. However, I took a few Fencing classes in college and enjoyed that quite a lot.

17. I hold my pen incorrectly, between the second and third knuckles of my right fist.

18. I used to be a conservative Republican and a fundamentalist Christian — but no longer. If you are any of those things, I’m probably going to Hell in your book.

19. I can do a few, moderately impressive sleight-of-hand magic tricks.

20. I hid myself in Assam & Darjeeling. So far only one of my readers/listeners has found me.

21. I hate wasps. In my personal mythology, they symbolize demonic spirits. Oddly enough, I am not frightened of demonic spirits.

22. A priest just walked by outside the window of my office as I was typing this.

23. Every so often I buy a lottery ticket, just because it’s worth a dollar to say “What if..?”

24. I cannot imagine the circumstances that would persuade me to attend a school reunion.

25. I will turn 40 in June and I’m perfectly fine with that. Life gets better the older I get and I have never been happier than I am right now.

And I think that is a perfect place to end this list. Thanks for playing along.

Oh, and keeping with the meme, I tag: Akela, Dayngr, Jesse, Twila Marie, Christine and Andrea. So there.

One of the bad guys who was, it turns out, a good guy in real life. The few times when I saw him speaking in interviews, he always seemed like a clever, decent fellow with considerable talent and experience . . . who didn’t mind it that his claim to fame was due to an insane giggle and a green unitard.

S’funny, I can still hear his voice in my head. That strangely resonant escalation he used whenever The Riddler spoke of a scheme he was hatching or a trap he had laid. If I had to write it out, I’d want a musical notation to map out the rise and fall of his voice, that strange Beat Poetry tempo of his words.